Six Simple Words That Can Save Your Marriage

"Honey, you're so good to me" are the words our recent guest Author Kimberly Pryor says can save your marriage.  But is it really that simple?  What do these words mean?  In essence what these words invoke are a version of a gratitude journal. 

Is being grateful really all that important to the health and well being of your marriage? According to popular psychology, "studies show that gratitude not only can be deliberately cultivated but can increase levels of well-being and happiness among those who do cultivate it. In addition, grateful thinking—and especially expression of it to others—is associated with increased levels of energy, optimism, and empathy."

In essence what Kimberly suggests is to create a relationship journal listing all of the qualities, actions and words of your partner and how they make you feel loved, cared for and appreciated.  Gratitude journals have been around for some time and are a wonderful way to "remind us" of the many things we have in our lives.  In addition gratitude journals help us to reflect on the life we have lived thus far and can be a catalyst for change in stagnant relationships. 

What if you relationship is stagnant, or worse on the brink of divorce? The most critical aspect of any relationship is communication.  Often times couples slowly start to drift apart, allowing children, family and friends to take precedence.  Before they know it, communication is centered around everyone else, leaving the health of the relationship in jeopardy.  Using the "six simple words" to start a journal can be a starting point.  Even if the only person who reads it is you.  Recognizing the reasons you fell in love with your partner and the qualities they possess are a great way to get back on the road to recovery. 

Once the words are written, they gain energy that can grow if cultivated.  Each time your partner does something you like or even love, write it down.  Each morning re-read the notes you have written until you have the courage to speak them aloud to your partner. If you are unable to speak them aloud, try writing them on a note and leaving it for your spouse to find.  You might be surprised at their response.  Very few couples take the time to honor each other, expecting that their partner "knows how I feel about them." Don't make the mistake of assumption, tell them how much they mean to you.

Maintaining a healthy relationship requires commitment, much like living a healthy lifestyle.  If you want to be fit, you must eat healthy and exercise.  If you want a vibrant relationship, you must nourish and cultivate it.  Keeping a relationship gratitude journal is a great place to start.


If you would like to hear the full interview with Author Kimberly Pryor visit our website at: http://passionandpurposeradio.com/archived-shows/